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I Do, I Don’t : Have Fun + Resources

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This week we will see that if we want to experience the joy and fulfilment God intends for marriage we must treasure and pursue one another the way Christ pursues us. Fun is not a luxury in marriage. If you don’t pursue the enjoyment of your spouse, you may not have a marriage.
Read Ecclesiastes 9:9, Ephesians 5:1-2; 5:21-33, 1 John 4:7-12, Revelation 2:4-5

What are some of the things you most enjoy doing together in your marriage? How have your interests changed throughout you marriage?

What do you find yourself wanting most from your spouse: being pursued, included, thought of, romanced, helped, or given to What things seem less important to you? “If you don’t like what you’re getting, look at what you’re giving.”

Brag on the best ways your spouse closes the gap between intentions and actions. Tell each other which ones are intentional efforts and which just come naturally.

What will you do to keep working on your marriage in the future? Identify some ideas together for ways to put love into action. How can you help ensure your spouse feels “nourished” and “cherished”?


What relationship have you had the most fun in? What was it about the relationship and person that made it so fun? What were some of the things you did together that made it fun?

Is having fun a priority in your relationships? Why or why not? Why do think it’s important to God that we find joy in our lives and in our relationships with others?

What are some steps you can take today that will ensure that fun is a priority in your future marriage? In other words, how can you begin today to commit to love your future spouse with a “pursuing” love?

Do you see patterns in the ways others let you down? Explore the connections between what you desire and what you offer. “If you don’t like what you’re getting, look at what you’re giving.”

Describe how you can apply the say it, do it, and be it principles to workplace interactions, friendships, and family relationships.


To get what you once had; you have to do what you once did. What fun and romantic things did you do early on in your relationship that you might need to start doing again?

What are some intentions you haven’t turned into actions? What are some “purposeful time” or “thoughtful acts” ideas you can commit to do in your relationships and marriage this week?

Use paper or your mobile device to create a list of how you can say, do, and be what it takes to “close the gap.” Set a time this week to go over your list and make a plan.