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I Do, I Don’t: Fight Fair + Resources

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I DO. I DON’T.
FIGHT FAIR WEEK 2 QUESTIONS
This week we will talk about conflict in relationships and in marriage. To have a healthy relationship, both parties must give the same kind of love and respect they hope to receive themselves.
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
Read James 1:19-20, Proverbs 18:2, Proverbs 21:23, and Ephesians 4:26-27. The keys to fighting fair are found in James 1:19, which says, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” In which of these three ways do you do well when you fight and which do you not?

Married

God intends to use your marriage to expose your sin and help you grow out of it. What has your marriage revealed to you about your sinful attitudes, selfish behaviors, and other character flaws? Why do you think marriage brings so many character issues to the surface?

List some good things about your spouse. How difficult is it for you to focus on these things during a fight?
Do a reality check: How would you evaluate the way you and your spouse fight? Do you typically fight fair or unfair? Explain.

How did your parents handle conflict in their marriage? How has that shaped the way you handle conflict in your own marriage?

What steps can you take to become a better listener in your marriage? If you are a good listener, how has that affected the way you fight with your spouse?

Single
Strive to fight fair in all of your relationships today so that you will fight fair with your future spouse. When you fight you must “be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”

How much of a problem would your friends and family say anger is for you? How do you see anger affecting your relationships?

Describe someone who is really good at reconciling differences. What can you do to be better at it?

Do a reality check: How would you evaluate the way you currently handle conflict with others?

How did your parents and your family handle conflict while growing up? How has that shaped the way you handle conflict with others?

Share an example from your experiences of why it’s important to guard your words and handle your anger when you fight.

THIS WEEK
What will you do this week to restore a relationship damaged by fighting?
If somebody tried to describe your love for God solely by how well you love your spouse, what would he or she conclude? What are one or two things you can do that would serve your spouse, strengthen your marriage, and please God?